Resonating Through Shared Humanity: The Weight of Another’s Burden
This is where the magic happens. Or at least the awkward self-reflection.
For those who carry the pain of others, fearing the cost of letting go.
“Without space and love for yourself, you may struggle to fulfil your desired care.”
Empathic and caring child, the hatred that exists around you is not you. It is a reflection of the issues that exist in the lives of others. The difficulty you see in this is that you want to help relieve the suffering of others in any way you can. So, you stretch out and try to help resolve the anger in another; you drain energy into their cause in the hope that this will resolve their problems.
Dearest child, what a kind soul you are. There is so much you do for others that I do not think they realise, and that is okay—it comes from such pure love for others. The hardship with this is that others' issues are not yours to solve. You can only truly be a mirror in an attempt to create conditions that allow another to be seen, giving them space to process and resolve.
If anyone puts pressure on you to solve their problem—truly solve it—or directs their anger at you when it is clearly about something else, these things are not your responsibility. I feel the tension that results from this statement—a deep uncertainty about how to approach or defend against those in this position.
Gorgeous child, I see you struggle with discernment and not knowing how to handle their feelings. You are scared that pulling away would hurt them, as you feel it would hurt you. There is some truth to this, and there is also truth in the fact that you have resolved that your pain is not important and that you will take theirs—and it isn’t true. Without space and love for yourself, you may struggle to fulfil your desired care.
Oh, child, I feel the complexities knot your heart. You fear retribution and damaging relationships. You fear not being able to cope with the isolation of making a mistake. I believe it all—it is all truth.
This is what makes you courageous: that you face it and sit in it, and do not know definitively what is right but try to help and be patient regardless. Life is so complex, and you let it be that. Occasionally, however, it is okay to allow it to be simple—to allow yourself to come first for no other reason than you feel like it. This is self-care and creating safety within which you can provide for others.
Allow the chaos to remain as such, and it will soon resolve of its own accord. Stay courageous, child. Find something else in this world to smile at and create joy. When one creates joy, they give to a world that so desperately needs it.
So smile and laugh, and the world will be healed—one bit at a time.
🗝️ Three Paths to Make This Yours - Unlock Your Understanding:
How would I approach the pain of others without abandoning myself in the process?
🧠 The Thinker’s Path: I would trace the origins of their anger to avoid internalising it as my own.
🧠 Journal each time you feel responsible for someone else’s emotions, and map where that belief came from.
🌿 The Wanderer’s Path: I would breathe through the discomfort and honour my intuition when it tells me to step back.
🌿 Practise saying “I trust you to handle this” aloud, gently, when someone tries to pass you their pain.
🔥 The Challenger’s Path: I would set bold emotional boundaries and refuse to apologise for protecting my peace.
🔥 Create a mantra that affirms your right to peace—even when others are in chaos—and speak it when guilt creeps in.
The truth is simple and hard: You’re always one choice away from a new path.
Whispers of truth. Meant for you!
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